By Shirley Genga
Since time immemorial, men have never been too excited about walking down the isle.
While wo men dream about their wedding day from the mo ment they discover what a wedding is, men often have to be dragged down the altar kicking and screaming. For some reason, they view marriage as some sort of Maximum Security prison.
Last week, colleague Harold Oyodo wrote an interesting story suggesting some reasons why Kisumu men are no longer in a rush to walk down the aisle.
Kisumu is not an isolated case. Look around and you will see many young and successful men who are not in a hurry to walk down the isle. In fact, they seem to be on some sort of ‘marriage strike’ and are holding on to being single for as long as they can.
Thus as you can imagine, finding a willing mate is quite a challenge for wo men, because there is no point in dating a man who isn’t taking you anywhere.
Rather than getting married, a majority of men today seem content to exist in a state I like to call, ‘teenage adulthood’, which is characterised by serial dating, unhealthy commit ment to sports, binge drinking and general indifference to responsibility.?
All the above can be blamed on a number of things, but the biggest contributor in my book is the convenience of single life.
Men today are simply not in a hurry to walk down the isle because they can get all the benefits of marriage without the commit ment and responsibility of being married.
Back in the day, men did not really have much of a choice when it came to getting married. Because they are apparently disabled in all things domestic, they had to settle down in order to accommodate their domestic deficiencies.
Fast-forward to the 21st Century, Nairobi City, and men today have a solution to domestic deficiencies. She is called: Mama nguo.