My husband is cheating with my sister

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Rita's Issue

I’m suspecting that my husband is having a secret affair with my younger sister who is also living in our flat.

I cannot prove it because I have not caught them doing anything, but I am sure something is going on here. She is also married, but whenever we happen to be the three of us, like on most mornings when he gives us a lift to work, I always feel this strange tension around us.

His phone has a password so I cannot access his call logs or text messages, but I have never gotten this feeling before since we got married. She no longer likes having long conversations with me, she never looks me in my eye and when I mention him, she gets uneasy and changes the topic very fast.

I think they have been sleeping together in our marital bed. What can I do to catch him? I’m sure something is happening between them and I don’t want to remain the fool in this situation.     

Your Take

Rita, this should not bother you much because they may not be having an affair after all. Talk to each of them separately first and if you still think something fishy is going on, talk to both of them together. This will cow them and if they were seeing each other, they will stop. Oyoo Wycklife

Do your investigation and get your evidence before making any move. Use one of your trusted neighbours and friends to spy for you.Wilberforce Atsiaya

Spying on a cheating husband can be both risky and traumatising even though all the signs of cheating are there. Between them, your sister seems to be more reasonable. Talk to her like you have the evidence and see how she reacts. Also examine your sex life in case it is what is making your husband stray.Tasma Charles

I think you are just jealous, which is normal and natural because you are protecting your territory. You no longer have long discussions because there may not be anything worth discussing about. She may have her reasons to change the topic when you discuss your husband, not necessarily because she is having an affair with him. If they are having an affair you will catch them fair and square.Ouma Ragumo

The Counselor Advice

Rita, it must be difficult for you to admit that you suspect your husband is having an affair. The fact that it could be with your younger sister only adds salt to the injury.